I like to write. I write fantasy, sci-fi, paranormal and erotic stories as a hobby, so I don't generally write anything short. Yes, I'm a geek. (It's the 21st Century. Geeks apparently rock now.) Grab yourself a snack and a cup of coffee (I'll have a hot chocolate, please). This could take a while. A couple of things that I will be blunt about: Sorry if brutal honesty offends you. That's me. I despise smoking and drugs. "Despise," is a strong word, but I choose it deliberately. I watched my Mother die slowly from emphysema throughout my teens and my Father died pretty much the same way in my forties. I won't be involved with that again. I've also been to too many funerals for friends who destroyed their lives with drugs. You can choose your own fate - it's your life and I have no right to judge your decisions, but I choose not to be a part of anyone’s self destruction anymore. I care about people too much. I'm a scientist, by occupation and philosophy. I believe in things that can be observed and reproduced reliably, but I also believe in things that can't be disproved. I believe in possibility, often when many others can't open their minds that far. I don't write things off just because nobody else believes something is possible. I've seen people achieve the impossible too many times. Sometimes, magic does happen, but magic is really just knowledge that we don't fully understand yet. A hundred years ago, remote controls would have been magic. As Einstein allegedly said, "Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything that can be counted counts," but that may have come from someone else before him. I've loved deeply in past relationships and I loved it. I love love (That's love^2 for all of the other geeks). I would do just about anything to be in love again. It makes my friends sick when I smile ALL of the time. I've experimented with different types of relationships and I've learned that even if a relationship seems doomed to failure, "It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all," and I'm always prepared to try something new. When I'm in a relationship, I'm completely loyal. I don't cheat. I'm open to explore different concepts of 'a relationship', friends of mine have had open relationships and marriages and it worked for them. I like to try different things, but I'm basically selfish and insecure so I don't like to share my favourite things. In situations where previous partners and I have experimented with other people, I became quite jealous. I wasn't as sexually liberated as I thought I was, but maybe I've grown more confident since then. I know I've changed a lot. I'm a bit obsessive, so I can get my nose buried in things and lose track of time or I might prioritise things highly that really aren't that important to others. I need to be reminded sometimes about what is really important. I used to spend too much money on collecting things like CDs, DVDs, books and well, yes, I do have a lot of shoes for various reasons - running, cycling, lifting, grass sports, (Resort wear, After 5, After 9, After midnight,.. - I do like to shop.), but these days, I'm still trying to rebuild my career and get myself sorted out after returning to work. The upside is that when any partner is around, I can tend to focus a LOT of attention on them and show them a LOT of affection. I'm a bit self-righteous and arrogant too, so I have no problem making sickening public displays of affection, just because, (unless I get told not to, but ... sometimes, I forget and … it just happens, OK? Be prepared). I am a physical person. I am touchy and I love physical contact, especially full-body, physical contact (not just sex). I like to hug, but I’m not very good at working out who it’s OK to hug - a little lacking in social confidence - so I generally don’t make the first move. I'm sometimes afraid of invadng people's space. Ican be a bit intimidating to some. Apparently, I'm pretty good at hugging. I think I'm part octopus (but, I can't predict World Cup football matches). I have been a high level athlete and now I work with elite athletes. Physical attributes are important to me, but I have a diverse appreciation of physical characteristics. There is beauty in every shape and grace in every movement. We just have to learn how to recognise it. I can't be too critical, anyway. I've been pretty much every shape myself so far, and I'm changing again now (for the 'better' or at least I hope so, because it's bloody hard work these days). I have an open, but skeptical mind. If we disagree, I love a good discussion or rational argument, but I’m also good at being understanding, empathetic and reassuring. I laugh a lot and I'm playful, sometimes mischievous. Well, OK, most times mischievous. I like to poke the sleeping dragon. I like to test and be tested. How else can we learn about ourselves and grow if we are not challenged? I'm an attentive lover and I work hard to please my partner, but I prefer my partner to be in charge. I don't like to dominate. I don't have to be the alpha in the room (although, of course, I always am). I like to please, but I can get too caught up with trying to please my partner and it becomes a technical task rather than a time of fun and play. I need someone who is confident enough to grab me by the scruff of the neck and shake some sense into me at times. I'll try anything and do anything, but I like to make sure everything is safe beforehand. If I am sure that I won't accidentally hurt someone, I can let my inner out to play and leave my inhibitions at the door. Growing up is over-rated, anyway, isn't it?

My Ideal Person My ideal person is someone who is adventurous and likes physical, intellectual and emotional fun. Someone who is willing to accept and support my eccentricities and care for the person inside. Down to Earth but not apathetic.
I want a partner who is an equal. They should be confident and assertive enough to put their foot down or pull on the reins when I am lost in my own worlds. They should have their own individual dreams and aspirations as well as those we share. I want to meet someone who is willing to support my individual desires as I get great enjoyment and satisfaction from supporting my partners in theirs.
I don't care if they're Goth, Punk, Emo, Hippy, Fetish, Classy, powerdresser, label whore, or normal (whatever that is). Anything goes, but I love individuality and passion. If my partner wants to rebel against the world and it's expectations of appearance and behaviour, good for them. I'll help them shop for PVC, satin, studs, lace, Versace or Lorna Jane, but don't get mad if I want to borrow the really cool stuff. If they want to be conservative and casual, that's cool too (I suppose, but I've never seen the attraction of 'normal').
So, I want a partner who is not afraid to tell me what they want and how, when and how often they want it, but I also want someone who is not afraid to treat me like their little sex doll, dress me in PVC and spank me on the wing of a taxiing 747 at Heathrow, if that's what I want (speaking hypothetically, of course - I don't like being spanked; much; sometimes; when it's cold; and raining; at Heathrow, which it is a lot; not that I'd know, of course. None of that ever happened (much) - Don't talk to me about Freud).
My ideal person doesn't 'need' recreational drugs (including nicotine, alcohol, etc.) to get through the day, week or year (medical conditions are a different matter, of course), but few (dozen) drinks (of tequila) is obviously fine sometimes (especially with cinnamon sugar and an orange wedge).
They would have to be intelligent although not necessarily by formal education. Some people I know, who are considered to be airheads, have made some very profound comments to me that have changed my life or the way I look at the World. I’m attracted to confidence, adventurousness and tolerance. A partner would also have to be honest and open and want to have fun. They would also have to like having all of my attention a lot of the time, although it can go missing sometimes when I get engrossed in some activity I feel is important. I'’m aware that I do that, so I don'’t mind being pulled away when my partner wants some TLC. I like tempers. They're really just expressions of strong beliefs and emotions, which are exciting to me (and dodging flying utensils is good agility training).
Eventually, I would like to find a permanent relationship (tomorrow would be ideal - although I might not be able to get married until next week - I have to pick out a gown and then crash diet to fit into it), but I realise that won't happen immediately (OK, two weeks) and may not happen with the first person I meet.
Any partner would have to understand that I have questions that I need to answer about them, myself and how we would fit together and either help me find those answers together or allow me room to find them myself. I would never hide anything from a partner. There just isn't any point in pretending to be something that you're not if you want to share your life (and bodily fluids) with someone.
I like a partner who is honest and passionate - someone who has dreams and desires that they want to achieve in their life, whether it be art, music, physical activity, spiritual enlightenment, career or collecting comics (No, I don't, but some of them are pretty cool - did I mention I was a geek?). I don't necessarily need to be a part of those dreams, but I think any relationship would be stronger if I was able to contribute in some way, even if only as a cheerleader.
(As long as I get to wear the uniform.) Who said that?
Male, female TS/TG/TV/IS - who really knows? I've only been with women for most of my life. Recently, I've begun tentatively testing my preferences (It's the only way you can really be sure). I've seen an older man, a younger effeminate man and a pre-op TS and I was happy to learn that I had no inhibitions with anyone and was able to develop emotional contact with them all, although I haven’t ventured further than dinner dates and some preliminary playtime in most cases. They were all very nice people, so I’'ve been lucky not to meet any nutcases yet. I guess that opens the doors to more possibilities for an ideal partner, but I don't find overt masculinity (especially body hair - ewww!- and photo’s of penises) physically attractive. I guess that may change if I have positive experiences with them, but I don't have the time or desire to be racking up multiple sexual partners at the moment.
I'’m an intellectual person, so I enjoy conversation, debate, even a rational argument. Hysterics may be exciting, but in the end, not very productive for happiness. My partner would also have to be able to handle me getting over-analytical at times, even if it wasn't their passion. They would have to be strong enough and confident enough not to be intimidated by me. I'm above average size, physically developed and assertive (sometimes). I'’m told I can be intimidating (unconsciously), even though, that's not how I want to be and I'’ve been told that I have a ‘presence’ when I enter a room;– again, not one of my goals. My ideal partner would have to be comfortable with getting in my face and laying down the law. They would have to trust me. I am sometimes not a gracious loser, but I will admit when I'm wrong. I would never hurt a partner. That is completely unacceptable to me.
Hair catches my eyes first and eyes and smiles seal the deal. The more unusual someone's look, the better, but I think really nice hair and really nice eyes are just gorgeous and hook me straight away. The rest is window dressing if the personality is there. I'm attracted to people with adventurous spirits who are not afraid to wear their ideals on their sleeves - punk, Goth, emo, TG, fetish, politics, whatever. I grew up in a time when the original Punk and Goths (well, not the real, original Goths - I'm not quite that old) were out and about and I really looked up to and admired the courage that they showed in rising above the norm and resisting the social pressure to conform. I've never made the time to become a part of those subcultures or made the effort to express myself that publicly (too focussed on other achievements to spend that much time on aesthetics, although I did have a Mohawk for a while after I graduated from Undergrad - a real one, not one of these half-arsed, David Beckham, sucked mango, Fauxhawks). I celebrate those who do make the time and effort to display their convictions (especially Goths in Brisbane - that's hard core devotion in our climate) and I rebel in my own personal (and more convenient/subtle) ways for now. My ideal partner would have to be prepared to quash the odd rebellion sometimes. I will sometimes just play the Devil's Advocate for fun.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Dropkick Murphys, Reel Big Fish, Bosstones, Regurgitator,
Spiderbait, Foo Fighters, Queen, Muse,

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Role Playing, Cross Dressing, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Handcuffs/Shackles, Leather, Latex, ??? Some I haven't tried

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each, Honesty

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Not so much a celebrity as a movie character. Strong female
characters, like Sandahl Bergman's Valeria in the
Conan movies, Kate Beckinsale's Seline or Rhona Mitra's
Sonya in the Underworld movies, Angelina Jolies's
Fox in Wanted or Pam Anderson's Barb Wire. I've
just noticed there's a lot of leather in that list.
I'm not sure if I want to be with them or be them - probably
a bit of both.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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